Regrets

re·gret

verb

1. feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, especially a loss or missed opportunity). “she immediately regretted her words”

noun

1. a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done. “she expressed her regret at Virginia’s death”

Some people say that they have no regrets. I respectfully call bullshit on those people. We all have things in our life that we wish we would have done or said differently. Maybe words or actions done out of anger or other emotions. Perhaps something was taken out of context or misunderstood. Or maybe you missed out on doing or being a part of something because you had to make a decision that you later wished that you had done differently. We all have regrets. It is part of life and is human nature. We second guess things and use reflection to try to validate our mind and heart’s “What if’s” surrounding the incidents at hand.

The truth is, we ALL have regrets. That feeling can overtake you like a wildfire sometimes if you are not careful. It may cause you to overreact to things, or you may simply start obsessing about it. Thus, causing even more damage. It is much easier said than done at times to just let something go and not worry about it. Especially if you have a regret about it. That just means that it meant enough to you for you to actually care. That isn’t a bad thing. You just need to be careful how much you think about it, and not let it consume you. That can be very dangerous and lead to depression, anxiety, and a host of other issues that can, and will, really mess up your life. Like i said,that is MUCH easier said than done sometimes.

Life is hard and is full of choices on a daily basis. Some we make or do without even realizing it as we go about our day. Others we labor and debate on quite hard. Either way, chances are at some point you may even second guess those. It happens. None of us are perfect and make the right choices every single time. We can only do the best we can at the time, and if regret rears it’s head, just do the best to remedy the situation that you can. I say that because sometimes regret over something can lead to depression, and depression can in turn affect other parts of our lives such as friendships, relationships, marriages, work, etc. It can even sneak up on you at times and before you know it…BOOM…everything hits a wall.

So, I guess my point is, we will all encounter regret over certain things in our lives no matter who we are or what we do. All we can really do is to hope for the best, try not to dwell on things too much, and try to repair any damage that we may inflict on our lives if it comes to that because of regret induced actions. Apologize, make amends, try your best to find peace in what happened, and forgive…not only yourself but others. Regret can be a nasty thing. Don’t let it ruin your life. It will if you let it.

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