Many times we lose our sense of worth throughout our lives. Whether it’s with employment, in relationships, or even just to ourselves. We lose our own value and settle for less than what we should or deserve. This is done unintentionally sometimes in my experience.
Let’s start with work as I explain further what I mean.
It doesn’t matter if you are currently employed, unemployed, or just looking at other options in order to make a change. Many times we settle for much less just to have something to do and an income. If you are employed, chances are that you are pretty much underpaid for what you do or bring to the table with your company. That is becoming more common in many workplaces. It is not always the case but there are multitudes of where it is. We need to try to be more aware of what our worth is in these situations and address the matter accordingly. If you are employed, talk to your management and see what options are available to be done to make you feel that you are being compensated more fairly for what you have to offer. If you are unemployed, it is much easier to lose your sense of worth just to be able to get a job and have some income coming in to the home. Be careful with this. I understand all too well the fact that sometimes we have to take less of what me may want, or want to do, just to land a job. If you feel the need to do that, especially if it has been difficult landing a job, don’t stop looking for that better fit. Which brings me to that portion of this topic. If you are searching, have an idea of what you and your talents are worth. Try to make that a reality as you find that fit. If you can’t find a fit, make your own path. Think outside the box.
Next we are on to relationships.
Trust me when I say that I am very familiar with losing your worth in this setting. It is very easy to do sometimes, especially if you feel unappreciated. Whether we are starting a new relationship or have been in one for a while, we tend to begin to lose ourselves and our worth in order to try to please the other person sometimes. It may not be an all the time kind of thing, but we do it. I’m not talking about compromise in general. I’m talking about how we view ourselves and our worth in the relationship. We tend to settle too often just to be near someone or have someone in our lives. We shouldn’t! We need to better grasp what we are looking for, want, and deserve in relationships. Never, ever just settle! Personally, I have settled a lot in my past in relationships. It has taken me a very long time to start to realize what I have to offer someone. I have also realized that not just anyone will get a chance to see that, like I have in the past, as I look to my future. I know what I deserve and will settle for nothing less. I have become much pickier in the types of people I will trust with my heart. I will hold out and wait as long as it takes for that to happen. Now, I know that when we meet people it takes time to get to know them and see if something may work or not. I get that. However, if it is not working, if I am unhappy, or even if I am unsure about someone, I am not afraid to cut things off. None of us need to be. If it is not fitting, I can’t make a round peg fit in a square hole. Our perfection is out there to find. Wait for it for as long as it takes. When you do find it, hold on to it! When you find “The One”, you will usually feel it in your heart, not just your head. Sometimes we are wrong. I get that too. All we can do is the best we can with the information that we have at the time. Know your worth and wait for that special one. It will make it all worth it in the end. No matter how long it takes. Waiting for them is better than settling for less and maybe missing them when they come along.
So, now that leaves us with our own personal sense of worth.
This one I could go on and on and on about, but won’t. I will keep it pretty short. I may revisit this part later on it’s own. Let me start by saying that you ARE worthy. You ARE great. You ARE special. Sometimes, especially in times of heavy stress, we feel worthless or like we have nothing to offer ourselves much less anyone else. That could not be farther from the truth. I know it doesn’t feel like it at the time. Trust me when I say that I do. We each have so much to offer ourselves, someone else, our companies, and the world. We first must be able to see that in ourselves. If others see that in you and tell you, LISTEN TO THEM! At times that can be so hard to do. However, in God’s eyes, we are ALL special and worthy. To HIM we are priceless and HE made us that way. We all have our own things that we bring to the table that make us each special and very valuable to ourselves and to others. We just need to learn to see it in us too.
I will close with one question…
What is your worth?
You are priceless!!
Now you know.