Know your worth

Many times we lose our sense of worth throughout our lives. Whether it’s with employment, in relationships, or even just to ourselves. We lose our own value and settle for less than what we should or deserve. This is done unintentionally sometimes in my experience.

Let’s start with work as I explain further what I mean.

It doesn’t matter if you are currently employed, unemployed, or just looking at other options in order to make a change. Many times we settle for much less just to have something to do and an income. If you are employed, chances are that you are pretty much underpaid for what you do or bring to the table with your company. That is becoming more common in many workplaces. It is not always the case but there are multitudes of where it is. We need to try to be more aware of what our worth is in these situations and address the matter accordingly. If you are employed, talk to your management and see what options are available to be done to make you feel that you are being compensated more fairly for what you have to offer. If you are unemployed, it is much easier to lose your sense of worth just to be able to get a job and have some income coming in to the home. Be careful with this. I understand all too well the fact that sometimes we have to take less of what me may want, or want to do, just to land a job. If you feel the need to do that, especially if it has been difficult landing a job, don’t stop looking for that better fit. Which brings me to that portion of this topic. If you are searching, have an idea of what you and your talents are worth. Try to make that a reality as you find that fit. If you can’t find a fit, make your own path. Think outside the box.

Next we are on to relationships.

Trust me when I say that I am very familiar with losing your worth in this setting. It is very easy to do sometimes, especially if you feel unappreciated. Whether we are starting a new relationship or have been in one for a while, we tend to begin to lose ourselves and our worth in order to try to please the other person sometimes. It may not be an all the time kind of thing, but we do it. I’m not talking about compromise in general. I’m talking about how we view ourselves and our worth in the relationship. We tend to settle too often just to be near someone or have someone in our lives. We shouldn’t! We need to better grasp what we are looking for, want, and deserve in relationships. Never, ever just settle! Personally, I have settled a lot in my past in relationships. It has taken me a very long time to start to realize what I have to offer someone. I have also realized that not just anyone will get a chance to see that, like I have in the past, as I look to my future. I know what I deserve and will settle for nothing less. I have become much pickier in the types of people I will trust with my heart. I will hold out and wait as long as it takes for that to happen. Now, I know that when we meet people it takes time to get to know them and see if something may work or not. I get that. However, if it is not working, if I am unhappy, or even if I am unsure about someone, I am not afraid to cut things off. None of us need to be. If it is not fitting, I can’t make a round peg fit in a square hole. Our perfection is out there to find. Wait for it for as long as it takes. When you do find it, hold on to it! When you find “The One”, you will usually feel it in your heart, not just your head. Sometimes we are wrong. I get that too. All we can do is the best we can with the information that we have at the time. Know your worth and wait for that special one. It will make it all worth it in the end. No matter how long it takes. Waiting for them is better than settling for less and maybe missing them when they come along.

So, now that leaves us with our own personal sense of worth.

This one I could go on and on and on about, but won’t. I will keep it pretty short. I may revisit this part later on it’s own. Let me start by saying that you ARE worthy. You ARE great. You ARE special. Sometimes, especially in times of heavy stress, we feel worthless or like we have nothing to offer ourselves much less anyone else. That could not be farther from the truth. I know it doesn’t feel like it at the time. Trust me when I say that I do. We each have so much to offer ourselves, someone else, our companies, and the world. We first must be able to see that in ourselves. If others see that in you and tell you, LISTEN TO THEM! At times that can be so hard to do. However, in God’s eyes, we are ALL special and worthy. To HIM we are priceless and HE made us that way. We all have our own things that we bring to the table that make us each special and very valuable to ourselves and to others. We just need to learn to see it in us too.

I will close with one question…

What is your worth?

The answer…

You are priceless!!

Now you know.


Independence Day

Today, July 4th, we celebrate our independence as individuals, families, communities, and a nation. It is rightfully the most patriotic of our national holidays. However, our independence should be celebrated on a daily basis.

Our independence should be viewed as more than just the freedoms that we hold dear as a nation. We should recognize and celebrate on a daily basis our independence as individuals no matter where in the world you are from or reside. Race, religion, social status, and anything like that aside, we are all the same as human beings. We are all built in the same manner and bleed the same blood. That is where our similarities end though. Outside of all that we are all vastly different and unique in our own ways. There are roughly 7.6 billion people on this rock that we share as our home. That number also grows by leaps and bounds every second of every day. Each one different than the other. Much like 7.6 billion different fingerprints roaming the world every single day.

Individuality is a huge part of who we are and are meant to be. We are not created to be like the person next to us. How boring and mundane would that be? We are created and go through life always changing, growing, and learning, but all the while, staying completely unique into ourselves. We need to celebrate that more often. Celebrate who we are as unique creations of art. We are all one of’s! Every single one of us is one of a kind and should stay that way. We should never let anyone or anything take that away or change us. Stay true to who you are at your core! People will come in and out of our lives. We can’t lose ourselves trying to please or impress other people. We also cant let other people control us and try to make us into who they want us to be. Just be you! Stay what makes you, well you. People will either like that and stay, or they won’t, and they will go. That isn’t your concern. Just like in art, some colors work together at times to make beautiful works of art. Other times, those same colors won’t work together. Choose to be around the colors that make your life a beautiful piece of art. Fill it with as much of that as you possibly can. Fill your life with the things and people that make it vibrant, beautiful, and the unique individual that you are. Celebrate your independence every single day. Not just July 4th!

Life is a gift

It is my belief that life is truly a gift and full of surprises. Every day that we are blessed to wake up for another one, we should cherish every moment of it.  Good or bad, we are here to enjoy it all. Many each day are not so lucky. As each day unfolds, we are given unseen paths to take. Each path taking us through certain situations and encounters designed to test us. How we choose to handle those tests, determine how long it will take us to get to the destination that we are meant to get to. I believe that we all have at least one destination that we are destined to reach. That could be a person or relationship, place, or thing that we are meant to do with our lives. It could quite possibly be a combination of those as well. After all, how many times have we encountered a situation that causes us to stop and think for a moment “If I hadn’t met so and so, or gone here or there…”, that we would have never been where we are now? I’m sure that has happened to us all. I know for a fact that it has happened to me more than once. Imagine life as a giant spider web. Our destination is the center. We can start at any place along the outside. How many twists and turns could it take us to get to where we are going?

My point is this. Life is a gift. We never know what is in store from one moment to the next. Life is also short and goes by quickly. Do what you need to do to enjoy your time here. Life is too short to spend extended amounts of time being unhappy or miserable. If you are unhappy or unsure of a career, job, relationship, or whatever, change it! Do whatever you need to do to make yourself happy and able to love life. We only get one! Spend as much of it as possible with people you love, doing things you love, and just being happy! Many of us are currently in situations in which we are unsure if we should stay at our current jobs, unsure about a relationship we may be in, or considering a geographical move. If you are having these thoughts, it is more than likely life trying to nudge you onto a different path to get you to where you need to be. Don’t let fear and what ifs keep you on the wrong path. Change can be hard, but is also necessary and part of life for us to continue to grow and become who we are meant to me when we reach our destination. Make that change! Take that scary 1st step that you may be being pushed to take by those thoughts that you are having in your heart. It will be worth it in the end.

I will close with this, followed by a poem that I wrote a few years back. Life is a gift that unwraps itself for us each day. Live it! Love it! Don’t waste it or the time you have! You never know how much time you have left. It could all be gone tomorrow. Spend it with people that make you happy, doing things you want to, and enjoying what it has to offer. Life is much too short to be unhappy or unsure of things.

-Courage to change (3/12/09)

We all have problems

We all have fears

Afraid to face them

To look in the mirror

You’re stuck in a rut

Nowhere to go

Knots in your gut

Going with the flow

Not really happy

Only content

Start feeling crappy

Just need to vent

Change is needed

Where to begin

Refuse to be defeated

Use the courage within

We all have it

It is not lost

The result is worth it

It’s worth all the cost