Paths we take…

Many times when we meet someone new and special that enters our life, we sometimes ask them “Where were you so and so years ago?” or a similar question. Is that really a fair question to ask anyone? Yes, you may, and probably do, wish that you came into each others lives sooner. However, let’s really think about that question for a moment. If you had come into each others lives, let’s use 15-20 years ago as an example, you both were probably completely different people at those times in your own lives. Would you still have some common interests? Maybe so, but there would probably be widely different other ones. Think about it for a moment. What events and circumstances have changed and shaped your own life over the past 15-20 years? Did you have children during that time? I’m sure you wouldn’t change that at all….right? What other people or things have come in and out of your life that made you who you are today? What life circumstances, such as employment…military service…changes in geographical location, have you undergone? Are you beginning to see my point yet? I bet you are. I am a firm believer in the thought that “Everything happens for a reason”. We may not know it, or see it at the time but, I believe that everything is a stepping stone to something or somewhere else. Some of those things are most certainly our own choices but, I’m not saying to always be looking for the next good thing either at all. Choices are merely just the best, or worst, decisions we can make at any given time with the knowledge that we have at that time. Nothing more, nothing less. Some are good…some not so much. That is part of the beauty of it all. The beauty in the realization that there is something much greater(whatever you choose to believe in) at work in our lives to get us where we are meant to be. How many times have you thought to yourself “Man, I never would have seen myself here X number of years ago.”? I can almost guarantee it has been more than once. That is precisely my point! Wherever we are in our lives currently, we are most certainly supposed to be there. Everything up to this point has led us directly to that point even though it may feel indirectly in our minds. Think of it like this. Let’s say you are walking down a path in the woods. Every step you took to get where you currently are on that path was made purposely but, without even really thinking about it or regretting any one or more steps before. Without those previous steps, you would not be where you are on that path. Am I correct? So, while you are on your path, don’t necessarily pay attention to your steps, but more so on the location of the path you are on. Enjoy it. Live it. If need be somewhere down the path, veer off onto a different one. Just make sure to be on the path you want to live on at this moment in your journey. Everything ahead is still being built and laid out before us.

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Don’t defeat yourself…

As humans, it is human nature to feel fear from time to time. That is perfectly ok. It is what you do when faced with that fear is what is important. If you are faced with an emergency such as an accident or fire, then yes, most definitely run if you are inclined to. I know that there are 2 types of people referred to in these types of instances….Run to and run from. I, myself, am a run to. If you are a run from, that is perfectly ok….Run.

However, that is not the type of fear I am talking about. I am talking about personal fear. That fear of the unknown as we are faced with daily decisions in some cases. Those decisions that lie at the edges of our comfort zones. The ones that keep us from changing or doing great things. That fear is a sign that there is change or progress near. That is nothing at all to be scared of! That fear is merely an obstacle that is put in place to try to keep you in your comfort zone. Comfort zones are good but we should never live there permanently. We should always seek to grow and be better than we currently are. Whether that be personally, financially, or whatever the case may be. It feels great to face that fear, kick it in the (insert body part here), and move on to bigger and better things. That is the only way we can grow and improve. News flash, that fear will ALWAYS be there. as you move from place to place and continue to grow, that fear will present itself over and over again to try to hold you back. Get used to it, but never back down from it. Don’t defeat yourself, or cheat yourself, from something great that lies just beyond that fear. Face that fear with confidence, stare it down, and walk right through. I believe in you! You can do it!! Never stop trying to improve yourself or your life. That complacency will kill your dreams, your desires, and eventually…you. Leaving you with nothing but regrets. You are better than that! I know you are. You do too. Go make your life great and be happy in knowing that you are looking ahead while enjoying the present. Just because you like the present, doesn’t mean that the future can’t be even better. Let’s go live life and make it great! Who’s with me? Let’s go! Time to roll out!

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Dreams

Dreams. We all have them. Not the sleepy time kind, the dreams for our future. What are yours? Really. What are they?  What are you doing to make them a reality?

You don’t have to have it all figured out. None of us do. Life is constantly changing and evolving. That is what makes it fun and challenging. If it was easy, we’d all be millionaires. Right? It doesn’t matter if you make six figures a year or eight bucks an hour, we all have dreams and ambitions. Things we want, would like to do, would like to be, and where we’d like to be.  We all have more dreams than dollars….or we should have. It is NEVER too late to get on a path to reach them. Will we every fulfill all of them….no. Or at least we shouldn’t. You need to always be looking to grow, challenge yourself, and strive to be better than you were yesterday. Whether you are homeless, broke and living in a bad place, crashing on couches, or living in a big house with all you can fill it with, we are all the same. Material things are nice and we are becoming programmed that those things are what matters. It’s not. What is important are your friends, family, dreams, desires, and ambitions. As long as we have any of those, we are richer than any bank account in Beverly Hills. As long as you have a willingness to live and be the best you can be, you have riches. Money, houses, cars, etc. can all be taken away. Your dreams and aspirations cannot. You don’t have to try to figure it all out and plan 20 years ahead. News flash…you will never figure it out. Life throws us curves and forks in the road. Life is not a straight path. Sometimes you need to detour off one path or turn around and start over to get to the one we need to be on. Just keep the dreams you have. Just because you may have to start over doesn’t mean that you can’t reach it. It just means you were on the wrong path. The one you were on wasn’t the right one to get there. When you make one a reality, create another. Keep going and reaching upwards. Think of life as stepping stones in a flower garden. Sometimes we don’t step on one exactly right and slip or fall off of it. What to you do? You just get back on it or the next one and keep moving forward. If we miss a stone or fall of, do we give up on where we were headed and turn around? Nope. We get back on it or the next one and keep going. If there is a fork in the garden, we choose a path right? Does that always go where you thought it did? Not always. Do you give up and go home, or do you try to find the right way to where you wanted to go? Sometimes it’s not easy to find that way, but we keep trying until we get there. Right? Dreams are the same. Set one and go after it. Don’t ever stop reaching for it!! Sometimes you’ll be surprised what you find and encounter along the way.