Many times when we meet someone new and special that enters our life, we sometimes ask them “Where were you so and so years ago?” or a similar question. Is that really a fair question to ask anyone? Yes, you may, and probably do, wish that you came into each others lives sooner. However, let’s really think about that question for a moment. If you had come into each others lives, let’s use 15-20 years ago as an example, you both were probably completely different people at those times in your own lives. Would you still have some common interests? Maybe so, but there would probably be widely different other ones. Think about it for a moment. What events and circumstances have changed and shaped your own life over the past 15-20 years? Did you have children during that time? I’m sure you wouldn’t change that at all….right? What other people or things have come in and out of your life that made you who you are today? What life circumstances, such as employment…military service…changes in geographical location, have you undergone? Are you beginning to see my point yet? I bet you are. I am a firm believer in the thought that “Everything happens for a reason”. We may not know it, or see it at the time but, I believe that everything is a stepping stone to something or somewhere else. Some of those things are most certainly our own choices but, I’m not saying to always be looking for the next good thing either at all. Choices are merely just the best, or worst, decisions we can make at any given time with the knowledge that we have at that time. Nothing more, nothing less. Some are good…some not so much. That is part of the beauty of it all. The beauty in the realization that there is something much greater(whatever you choose to believe in) at work in our lives to get us where we are meant to be. How many times have you thought to yourself “Man, I never would have seen myself here X number of years ago.”? I can almost guarantee it has been more than once. That is precisely my point! Wherever we are in our lives currently, we are most certainly supposed to be there. Everything up to this point has led us directly to that point even though it may feel indirectly in our minds. Think of it like this. Let’s say you are walking down a path in the woods. Every step you took to get where you currently are on that path was made purposely but, without even really thinking about it or regretting any one or more steps before. Without those previous steps, you would not be where you are on that path. Am I correct? So, while you are on your path, don’t necessarily pay attention to your steps, but more so on the location of the path you are on. Enjoy it. Live it. If need be somewhere down the path, veer off onto a different one. Just make sure to be on the path you want to live on at this moment in your journey. Everything ahead is still being built and laid out before us.
As humans, it is human nature to feel fear from time to time. That is perfectly ok. It is what you do when faced with that fear is what is important. If you are faced with an emergency such as an accident or fire, then yes, most definitely run if you are inclined to. I know that there are 2 types of people referred to in these types of instances….Run to and run from. I, myself, am a run to. If you are a run from, that is perfectly ok….Run.
However, that is not the type of fear I am talking about. I am talking about personal fear. That fear of the unknown as we are faced with daily decisions in some cases. Those decisions that lie at the edges of our comfort zones. The ones that keep us from changing or doing great things. That fear is a sign that there is change or progress near. That is nothing at all to be scared of! That fear is merely an obstacle that is put in place to try to keep you in your comfort zone. Comfort zones are good but we should never live there permanently. We should always seek to grow and be better than we currently are. Whether that be personally, financially, or whatever the case may be. It feels great to face that fear, kick it in the (insert body part here), and move on to bigger and better things. That is the only way we can grow and improve. News flash, that fear will ALWAYS be there. as you move from place to place and continue to grow, that fear will present itself over and over again to try to hold you back. Get used to it, but never back down from it. Don’t defeat yourself, or cheat yourself, from something great that lies just beyond that fear. Face that fear with confidence, stare it down, and walk right through. I believe in you! You can do it!! Never stop trying to improve yourself or your life. That complacency will kill your dreams, your desires, and eventually…you. Leaving you with nothing but regrets. You are better than that! I know you are. You do too. Go make your life great and be happy in knowing that you are looking ahead while enjoying the present. Just because you like the present, doesn’t mean that the future can’t be even better. Let’s go live life and make it great! Who’s with me? Let’s go! Time to roll out!
Dreams. We all have them. Not the sleepy time kind, the dreams for our future. What are yours? Really. What are they? What are you doing to make them a reality?
You don’t have to have it all figured out. None of us do. Life is constantly changing and evolving. That is what makes it fun and challenging. If it was easy, we’d all be millionaires. Right? It doesn’t matter if you make six figures a year or eight bucks an hour, we all have dreams and ambitions. Things we want, would like to do, would like to be, and where we’d like to be. We all have more dreams than dollars….or we should have. It is NEVER too late to get on a path to reach them. Will we every fulfill all of them….no. Or at least we shouldn’t. You need to always be looking to grow, challenge yourself, and strive to be better than you were yesterday. Whether you are homeless, broke and living in a bad place, crashing on couches, or living in a big house with all you can fill it with, we are all the same. Material things are nice and we are becoming programmed that those things are what matters. It’s not. What is important are your friends, family, dreams, desires, and ambitions. As long as we have any of those, we are richer than any bank account in Beverly Hills. As long as you have a willingness to live and be the best you can be, you have riches. Money, houses, cars, etc. can all be taken away. Your dreams and aspirations cannot. You don’t have to try to figure it all out and plan 20 years ahead. News flash…you will never figure it out. Life throws us curves and forks in the road. Life is not a straight path. Sometimes you need to detour off one path or turn around and start over to get to the one we need to be on. Just keep the dreams you have. Just because you may have to start over doesn’t mean that you can’t reach it. It just means you were on the wrong path. The one you were on wasn’t the right one to get there. When you make one a reality, create another. Keep going and reaching upwards. Think of life as stepping stones in a flower garden. Sometimes we don’t step on one exactly right and slip or fall off of it. What to you do? You just get back on it or the next one and keep moving forward. If we miss a stone or fall of, do we give up on where we were headed and turn around? Nope. We get back on it or the next one and keep going. If there is a fork in the garden, we choose a path right? Does that always go where you thought it did? Not always. Do you give up and go home, or do you try to find the right way to where you wanted to go? Sometimes it’s not easy to find that way, but we keep trying until we get there. Right? Dreams are the same. Set one and go after it. Don’t ever stop reaching for it!! Sometimes you’ll be surprised what you find and encounter along the way.
I hope everyone had a safe and good Cinco de Mayo if you did anything at all. I had dinner with a new and great friend at a nice Mexican restaurant I found. It was the 1st time in 43 years that I remember doing anything special for Cinco specifically at a Mexican place. It got me thinking really after I really saw how crazy it got at just this 1 place.
It is no secret that we, as Americans, love the Mexican culture and food even other than this one particular day of the year. I mean…really. We spend approximately $39 BILLION each year at Mexican restaurants and we travel to Mexico other than any other country. Yet, we treat the people so badly. Both with prejudice and income/wage wise. Why? I know that there is a huge issue with illegal immigration from there and that there are some bad people that come into our country from there as well. However, how can we cast stones and judge an ENTIRE ethnic group based on a fraction of the populous? That goes for all ethnic groups, I am using this one currently as an example. It has become part of our world today to look at people that are different than us differently sadly. After all, we are all the same on the inside…right? Our organs, blood, bones, structure, and biology are the same…right? Most of us, but not all, are derived from immigrants to this country at some point. Some of you are immigrants yourself. We must stop assuming that if someone is from another country, especially Mexico, that they are here illegally. I do agree that it should be done legally and that the illegal part needs to be addressed, but that is not my point right now. We need to do MUCH better at embracing their culture in my opinion. I feel that just by embracing the food and the travel aspects only to our gain but criticizing the rest is sort of taking advantage of them. Wouldn’t you agree? Think about it. If one of your friends or neighbors, just came over to enjoy your food and use your pool(for example) but disliked you and bashed you the rest of the time, wouldn’t you feel taken advantage of? Of course you would!! How is what we do any different really? Truth is…it’s not! Do we treat many of the European or Asian visitors or immigrants in such a way? Nope…usually not. By far, the bulk of our ethnic prejudges fall on 3 groups in my opinion. Hispanics(Mexican or not), Middle Eastern, and African American. In the last case, it is more racial than immigration related but still pretty much uncalled for in large part. In most cases, as stated above, the majority of those populous have done nothing wrong to warrant such acts of hostility and prejudice. Anyway, back to my main point. As Americans, more so as humans, it is high time that we embrace the Mexican culture and it’s people much better. Learn more about it and them as a whole. Embrace them. Next to Mexico itself, we have the largest Mexican community in the world(most are legal) so why should we not? Or should we just continue to take advantage of them for their food and travel spots? It only makes sense right? I think so. Also, I know that there are more Latin-American people from other countries than just Mexico and they are not all the same. Like stated before, I am just using the Mexican people and culture as a primary example.
Since I am sharing older things I have written, here is one more from a few months ago…
As I lay here unable to sleep early Christmas day, I have few thoughts I’d like to share.
Many people are celebrating this Christmas and holiday season without people they care about for the 1st time. It could be a brother, sister, son, daughter, mother or father. Maybe it’s another relative, friend, or even a celebrity or public figure that we were fond of. Either way, it can be more difficult for some people than others. Too often we take those around us for granted and don’t realize how precious life is. Cherish the time you get with such people in your life, you never know when their time here may be up. I don’t just mean during the holidays, but rather every chance you get throughout the year. I know we all lead busy, time consuming lives in today’s world. It is definitely a different time and place than many of us knew years ago. We can no longer let that be an excuse not to show love and the importance of those in our lives. For example, if I left this world today, how many of you would be saying or thinking “If only he knew…,if only I’d done or said…, I never got the chance to….etc”. You get the picture. Right? Make time, not excuses, for those you care about. It may be the last time you can.
Also, there is usually a stronger push during this season to help others in need or less fortunate. We even call it “The season of giving” sometimes. We, as the human race, need to do a better job of making that a year round thought process, not just a month or two out of the year. Paint if you will a picture in your mind. How much of a better community, state, country, or planet we could have if we did better spreading kindness and help to those who need it all year long? It just seems that people are more generous around this time of year. Where is that love for fellow man in let’s say…June? Is it as strong as in late November and December? I bet not in most cases. However, the need is still there just the same. Why do we let a a calendar dictate when we help others? We should be doing it regardless of what time of year it is. All I’m trying to say is that we have to change ourselves and our own thinking as individuals before we can even think about changing our society and world. We all want a better, kinder, world in which to live…right? Then change within. That will ripple out into the world. We can change the world…in time…but it has to start with us as individuals first. Drop the hatred, labels, stereotypes, and ill will. Instead, spread love, kindness, and joy. That is how we create change. It’s not going to happen on it’s own, we have to all be participants in creating it. Be the change you want to see in the world. That’s the only place it starts.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.
I love you all
I wrote this almost a year ago while on a flight knowing, even then, that I was interested in starting a blog such as this. So, I held onto it while I researched blogging and how to get started. That finally came to be thanks to a good friend Jamie. Thank you! I hope this entry gets you to THINK, even just for a moment.
Saturday May 28, 2016 6:56 am
(Somewhere over Arizona)
As I sit here looking out the window as we ascend into the beautiful Arizona sky, while leaving to head back east, I ponder on some things that have crossed my mind this week while on my trip(and I have thought A LOT about life, especially mine). I can’t help but think how peaceful it is up here above it all, as well as seeing some things in nature this week that have remained untouched by man for HUNDREDS of years! I wonder what stories they could tell if they could speak? It serves as a reminder that although we all live our hetic lives doing what we do in our own little bubble in our own little spot on this GIANT planet, we are just a small speck on this place in a small speck of time. We all hear the saying “Life is short” but, I think all too often we are too busy to let that REALLY sink in or to take a moment to think about it sincerely. Life IS short and we never know when our time will be up! So, take a few moments today(or over the next few)and think about where you are. Are you where you want to be? Are you happy or just comfortable and content where you are? It is NEVER too late to change where you are or what path you are on in life. YOU are in control of your life and happiness…no one else. Make changes in you life if you need to. Employment, love, location, or whatever you need to do to live a happy and fulfilled life with minimal regrets as it nears it’s end. Be happy, loving, caring, thoughtful, generous, at peace, and help your fellow man. THAT my friends is what it is truly all about. Life is short, so live a full and meaningful one! Live life…don’t just exist!!
Sometimes in life, while in misguided attempts to find ourselves, we actually lose ourselves quite often. We get so consumed by what is going wrong in our lives, who has hurt us, our jobs we that hate(not me at the moment..lol), etc. So we get on these things and it eventually consumes us. Yes, life is not perfect. It never will be. We need to look more at what is going right in our lives. Cherish the little things and minute moments, that bring us joy, that go largely unnoticed every day. We take too much for granted in today’s world. Life is not about how much money you make, how big your house is, or how expensive your car is. Life is about making the most out of the little things and enjoying life, not stressing about it. What is meant to be, will be. What is meant to happen, will happen. Regardless of what we do or how we to try to manipulate it.
Don’t get me wrong, we all have and make decisions that effect our life. Sometimes we are just dealt bad cards. those cards and events, however, don’t have to define who we are or what we do. Just like a game of cards, you just have to work at changing the cards in your hand until you get a hand that works for you. Most importantly, make memories and enjoy your life. No matter how bad or dark it seems, there is good in every life. You just have to find it. Meet new people, hang out with friends, and spend time with family. If you have someone special in your life, don’t let a day go by without them knowing just how much they truly mean to you. If you don’t, that’s ok. Be patient. That person is out there and will come along in time. That one magical person that will change your life. There is someone out there for everyone. With a current population of 7.5 billion people on Earth, someone is out there looking for you as well. Be open. Be receptive. Be full of life. Be real. Be happy. Most importantly, be you!! The rest will fall into place, piece by piece, when it is supposed to. You are special. You are worthy. Live life, don’t just exist! Make memories and always…Stay Golden.
Welcome to the journey that is my mind! It is sure to be an experience! My intent is for this to be filled with thoughts, feelings, random topics, and the occasional current event about this life and our trek through it on this rock, called Earth, that is our home. I hope you find enjoyment, thoughtfulness, and probably some laughter along the way.